1. Don’t rush him: Excitement is good for a start in a relationship but do not be over excited as it could make your man feel uncomfortable. You might want your new relationship to move fast and become a success, but you have to also remember that you might at the same time hurt your man’s feelings by rushing him to get things done at the start of a new relationship.
It is a new relationship and the beginning of a new relationship takes time to make things work as planned. Everything is a gradual process; take one step at a time.
2. Don’t push too hard: Anxiety could make you feel everything should happen at once; and it could push a lady into ruining her own relationship. A new relationship is fresh and needs to be handled with care. How a relationship is built from the beginning determines how solid and successful the relationship would be.
3. Ignorance: This applies to ladies who have had past relationship(s) experience. Do not be ignorant of what led to the failure of your past relationship. Always try to amend and fix what stood as a hindrance to your previous relationship by applying a fresh ideology to your new relationship. Men love women with lots and lots of relationship experience, it shows a sign of maturity.
4. Compatibility: Get to understand your level of compatibility so you will not always have issues with your man. Know his dos and don’ts; study his behaviour and know his likes and dislikes. Talking about the sensitive things in a relationship could give a helping hand to knowing how compatible you are with your man.
5. Freedom: Do not start a relationship with a man that gives you no freedom. Make sure you have your own say in everything. Make sure you have the right to speak and to be listened to. Do not be a slave to your own relationship. You need freedom to make a new relationship succeed.
6. Find your happiness: In everything, before anyone else, your own happiness should be your topmost priority. Make sure you find your own happiness in your new relationship. Do not be in a relationship you find no happiness.
7. Please no one: Please yourself before you think of pleasing anyone. Make yourself comfortable in your new relationship. When you have a settled mind and you feel comfortable, your man will also feel relieved and stress free as he will be able to rely on you.
8. Do not invest in a man: Many ladies make mistakes by investing in a man they are not sure of settling down with. It is important to know how compatible you are with your man before you invest in your man. As a lady, you may invest in your new relationship if you know you are compatible.
9. Take care of yourself: Make sure you take good care of yourself in your new relationship. The more healthy you are, the better you attract your man and again his attention. Sacrifice what you can in your new relationship but do not do more than your capacity.
10. See every problem as a lesson: You can not run away from problems in a relationship; and as a lady who is in a new relationship, you will always face some challenges. When you face those problems, do not see them as disasters upon you or your relationship, see it as a lesson and learn from every piece of it.
11. Equality: When starting a new relationship, make sure you have a right to equality. Your man should not claim he has the upper hand or share than you do after you might have worked hand in hand to make things work. Both lovers should have the same right to almost everything, if not everything.
12. Gender differences: A man should not treat you differently when it comes to love. You have the same right to everything. As a lady, it is important to be in love with a man who can help you do domestic work, by helping you wash the dishes and clothes if the need be. You can also help your man in doing some of his office work and more if you have the skills.
13. Build better communication skills: Learn to speak and be understood and learn to have listening ears. Good communication helps build a new relationship. It is best to listen and to be listened to without hurting each other as lovers.
14. Be patient: Patience is almost everything a successful relationship needs. Learn how to handle your temperament when issues arise in your relationship. It helps save your relationship from unwanted breakup.
15. Don’t prove difficult: Be a lady who is easy to understand. Do not prove you are superior to your man, because you are more financially buoyant . No man loves a woman who claims to be superior. Be humble and submissive to your man at all times.
16. Show emotions: Let you man know you are communicating by showing how you feel through emotions. Showing great emotion helps shield a new relationship.
17. Don’t be the fool: Do not let a man take advantage of you because you are in love. Be wise, only few men are truly in love. Most of them see you as a fool as they try all means to take advantage of you. They take advantage of you to progress while draining you physically and emotionally.
18. Don’t settle for less: Do not say because you are in love with a man, you should settle for less. Know your worth and know what kind of man you want, be compatible in ideas and vision, go for a man who sets goals and aims high.
19. Don’t focus on changing him: Are you thinking that you can change your man? Yes, it is possible to change a man but do not focus on changing a man because you might lose at both ends; by losing your man and your relationship. Do not force it; change is a gradual process, It takes time. He will change and if he does not, please look elsewhere.
20. Don’t force the emotion: This happens when you are in love and the man who claims to love you is not on the same love page with you. This could make a new relationship difficult. When you notice this in your man, do not force the emotion either in yourself or from your man; love comes naturally, give it time, it will come.
Learn how to gain his attention: Gaining a man’s attention by doing things that calls his attention more to you and getting him more attracted to you is important in a new relationship. Do this often and see how love feels.
21. Be loyal: Every man loves a loyal woman. The true meaning of loyalty could prove this. It is important to stay loyal and faithful to your man as it helps shield a new relationship.
22. Be Respectful: It is said that “respect is reciprocal”. The more you give respect to a man, the better your relationship becomes as he will return the respect you give to him.
23. Avoid jealousy: No matter what the situation of a new relationship is, do not let jealousy destroy it. It is natural to get jealous but too much of it could harm your relationship.
24. Appreciate his effort: In everything, learn to be appreciative, even if he has done little and you expected more. A little appreciation could really make a great difference.
25. Avoid battering: By all means, at all cost, avoid a man who treats you wrongly by abusing your personality. Assault isn’t healthy in a relationship; try as much as possible to contain it if you notice such in a new relationship.
26. Perfection is a No: In everything, do not look for perfection in your relationship as nothing is perfect in life. Even humans are not perfect; only God is perfect. So looking for perfection in a relationship could be a costly mistake and a regret at the end.
27. Make it futuristic: Every lover looks at their relationship as a futuristic one. This is why they sacrifice so much in their relationships. This is the mistake you should not make – though you may have a mindset that a new relationship looks promising and you try as much as possible to make it work; but do not over do, over react to make your good works bounce back on you negatively.
These are new relationship advice for ladies. Making good use of it will help shield your relationship. But you also have to know that while it is yours to think, it is God’s to decide. So be smart when making decisions in a relationship.